Just Say No to Dog Doe
Tears were shed yesterday. My smart husband laid down the law. Little “Dog Doe” will not be coming to live with us. I could have screamed, begged and insisted, but his reasons make sense. But I knew he would stay resolute in his opinion.
Both “Dolly,” my older daughter, and I are allergic to many dog breeds. There are tests to prove it. We also have asthma, which isn’t a good thing to mess with. These are the reasons we invested so much time, effort and money in finding and acquiring Lily the Labradoodle. I believed. I visualized. I took positive action.
Why would now it all of a sudden be okay to bring in a mutt of unknown origin? I believe it has something to do with a little part of me thinking I’m cured every time I feel well. In some ways this positive attitude is a good thing, but in others, more than once I have found myself up the creek without an inhaler.
Depending on where I was in the decision cycle, I can seriously say all of your comments were helpful. At some point I agreed with all of you. One minute I’d be saying, “Awww, let’s just take him now!” And the next:”Yes, it has come to pass. I am a cliched version of someone’s eccentric aunt.”
So I have more or less avoided over-thinking, while at the same time, not rushed into something of dubious outcome. We took three days to go around in circles about a subject that warranted it, and now we’re moving on.
Through my tears last night, as I accepted the verdict over “Dog Doe,” suddenly I burst out, “Can we get another $2500 labradoodle sometime then, in a year or so?”
And I looked at him through my tears. I wasn’t trying to manipulate, but I’m pretty sure I must have been all Ingrid Bergman at the end of Casablanca because he got all soft. Without missing a beat he said, “Yes!”
My lesson here? This positive thinking crap can sometimes get you, or someone you love in trouble. Positivity and visualization are amazing, but they can’t avoid certain realities. Just because we can have dogs in the house, doesn’t mean all dogs can be in the house. I’ll deal.
No more pictures of “Dog Doe.” If you want to see what we’re passing on, read here. I fear much public outcry if I were to show him again in this post. Besides, my husband might think I’m being manipulative. Rest assured, my neighbor Jennifer will find “Dog Doe” a nice home. Instead, I will share with you a picture of Lily and her littermates from when they were 7 weeks old at Southern Charm Labradoodles.
I am sorry for the pain of separation but your health really must come first. Give Lilly lots and lots and lots of hugs. It will pass and you know your neighbor will not fail in finding the puppy a home. There are lots of loving suckers out there. The publicist has never said no to a cat much to the sorrow of the male person. She had at one time 17 cats while living in a 900 sq ft house. It was…….interesting.
Aw….I’m so sorry. I hope you feel better! ((hugs))
I wanted to let you know it is my little niece who is having surgery today. Gramma Gladys’ card seemed so very appropriate for my little niece, who is VERY much the little girl in her love of fripperies and hats.
And thank you so much for your prayers and concerns. My prayers are with YOU, too.
Your health always comes first..
I have a question about making that blog badge thingamadoodle. How did you get the box to put the grabable code? What site did you go to to do that. I have one for my blog but my designer did it for me:) I’d like to make a grabable one for PFF:)
I think you did the best thing under the circumstances. Best to let him go now and find a home, than to find out later that he has to leave. You think you are heartbroken now–imagine getting rid of him in a year or two. Yeah, worse.
Sorry–he was cute. But he’ll find a good home soon.
And yet, the $2500 may be much less than the allergist’s bills.
But Doggie Doe looked great with your rug!!!
I’m sorry. He was a very cute lil’ pup. But, if you get sick from him then it just won’t work.
Puppy-Mommy Hugs,
Sheri
Oh dear, that must have been difficult for the whole family. I’ve had to get rid of a dog that didn’t work before. It’s OK. Sounds like y’all handled it very well and little cute face has a nice new home next door. He/she will be happy there, have no fear.
Well, I hope the time passes quickly when you can get another Labradoodle. God bless!
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Ow – that’s a hard one. It’s so hard to think with your head and not your heart sometimes. Most of the time.
Yay for another doodle though!
My husband tries to save me from my crazy train thoughts!!! I usually run any major ideas past him…
and then ignore his answer
Hello again, I was thinking of you today. I was thinking about how hard this must be for you. I thought you might need a hug. ((HUGS))
aww .. are labradoodles non allergenic? I dont’ think I could pay that much for something that will ultimately make my life hell though… my pooch is very old – almost 14 and starting to go down hill
thanks for all of your comments! I was a big hot mess for an hour or so, but then was fine. sparkle (13 yo daughter) might be a little slower to move on, but she will be fine
Happy weekend everybody! I know what I’m not buying this weekend!
Oh. Very sorry to learn that you can’t have that pretty dog in your life. But I think it’s the best decision for you, considering your allergies. And it’s good that Doe will eventually find a nice home too. Maybe in future you’ll find happiness in the form of some other cute furry companion. All the best
I’m so sorry…Be calm down…everything is gonna be OK
I’ve got something for you at my blog. ((Hugs))
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You had to do what was right for the household and I’m sure you’ll make sure Dog Doe gets a good home… he is so cute!
Jane
I could never say no to a tearful Ingrid… because my opinion wouldn’t amount to a hill of beans in this crazy world if I caused her pain.